Mothers Talk

We at Mothertree are passionate about mothers, kids and communities. From the start of our journey we have felt strongly about co-creating this platform with other mothers. We have listened, talked and discussed the idea of Mothertree with many mums. Here we have collected some highlights from what we have heard, their thoughts about co-living and why it could work or would make sense for them.  

‘I suppose, what I like about Mothertree is the idea of not being alone. The idea that there is a network. If you wanted to go out and be with other kids, or other mothers, that you would have a network that you could tap into. I am very solitary as a person, but the idea of having a community that I could be part of appeals to me. I don’t know how communal living would work for me, but I am interested in it. Without a big family around, I suppose it is like having a family, isn’t it? It is being part of something rather than having to do it all alone, which is tough when you’ve got a small child, it is tough when you have any child. The other thing is…. I am not as social a creature as he (her son) is. I know when he is with other kids he thrives. I should have said that right at the beginning – I would be doing that probably more for him than for me.’

Lucy, a single mum by choice, has a 9 years old boy.

‘London is a very difficult place to just live right now, and to work. It seems to me what Mothertree proposes is perhaps one of the ways that you could actually sustainably live as a single parent, on a single income bringing up a family in London. Because, I do think it is very, very difficult. If something like this could happen it would be absolutely amazing! And I do think it would really help a lot of people. I know that when my daughter was younger something like this would’ve really helped me. In particular, as I was working in the arts where salaries aren’t very high.’

Gini, solo parent, two kids, youngest child is 15.

‘I think there’s got to be quite a lot of freedom for how these things would organically be able to happen, because I think the initiative about linking up people who are sole parents is a great initiative. I certainly know that there are lots of things that I’ve not been able to do because I am a sole parent. It is a lot about architecture. Where we live, we are in a community of a housing estate where we are already in a community. We have lots of kids running around, they all play together. So, if there was a way of creating a sense of community or map the architecture of people’s immediate community?! For example, to say: oh, I live by that park. I live on the other side of that park. That person is in my community. It’s got to have a strong sense of the relationship to the immediate community. It is a question for architects and developers to imagine that.’  

Sophie, a sole parent by choice, has 8 years old boy.

‘I am really interested in cohabiting. I am in between: oh that would be amazing, and oh my God that would be awful. But sharing cooking, having someone else for my daughter to play with that would be wonderful. Because she is the only child I find it super, super draining. I lose my patience quickly, and especially in lockdown. Some days it feels like – I can’t do anything right. If someone else was around that would just help balance this out and I would not feel like everything’s on me all the time. I’d like to meet other mums who are interested in co-living and hang out for a good while. Spend maybe whole days together with them and their kids. It is a huge step living with someone, but I suppose I am very solitary and I need a place to retreat to. Yet, I am living in a two-bedroom flat with just me and my daughter. I have my own room and I still don’t feel like I can retreat. So, I feel I’d get that more if the parenting is shared somehow.’

Rosie, single mum of 5 years old daughter.

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