In a bubble

Mothers need allies, they need a shoulder to cry on, they need practical and emotional support, especially now during this pandemic. 

We in our communities need to pay attention to who the vulnerable and in need around us are during this difficult time. Very often it will be a mum down the road, struggling with shopping, struggling to make her kids  ‘behave’, struggling to keep up with tuition at home, struggling with self care, with sleep, struggling to put the food on the table. Many mums feel they are failing at being the parents that they’d like to be for their children, especially now, and especially the ones who are solo parents. A visit to the supermarket is full of anxiety when there is a small child by your side, your precious child who cannot be stopped from putting things in their mouth, licking the shopping trolley handle.

The pandemic and the sense of danger in urban environments is so intense and the mums on their own struggle the most. There is an immense mental and physical cost on women who take care of their kids single handedly. The realisation that we live in a society that’s disconnected, that communities are often fragmented, that we don’t know our neighbours, or our sisters/other mums down the road who are struggling with the same things that we are struggling with, has become more evident now than ever. Many women feel that there is no one to form a support bubble with, because they do not have close enough relationships and don’t reach out. What has happened to sisterhood? How come women are so disconnected in urban environments? When there is no school, no playdates, there are no activities, sports or art groups, no gatherings, no visits to the neighbours, no meals shared, it is impossible to keep doing well at being a parent and to keep positive. Mothers need allies and sisterhood more than ever.

Many women feel that there is no one to form a support bubble with, because they do not have close enough relationships and don’t reach out. What has happened to sisterhood, how come women are so disconnected in urban environments? When there is no school, no playdates, there are no activities, sports or art groups, no gatherings, no visits to the neighbours, no meals shared, it is impossible to keep doing well at being a parent, it is impossible to keep positive. Mothers need allies and sisterhood more than ever.

We at Mothertree are running regular Zoom sessions to reach out to women who are struggling; to talk, to hold and support each other. We are running groups every two weeks, by area codes in London. Let’s connect and create our support bubbles, be it virtual at first. Our dream is to be together in the real world and to share the challenges and the joys of motherhood as a community. We want to sit around the table, to embrace each other, to hold each other, for our kids to play together…but for now one day at a time, one step at a time… 

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